paradigm...

love this.
i could write an entire novel on this one.

this is key- once you understand your'e self worth, i guarantee it will be easier for you to navigate through all of your relationships. know who you are and what you will (and wont) accept from a lover. yes, it is still far to feel slighted if they come up short, but be proud when you can walk away from something that is outside of what you deserve. you deserve respect. you deserve honesty. you deserve kindness.
do not settle for anything less than what you deserve. it never works out. 

piece of advice?
when you meet a person, he or she is already who he or she is. accept and understand that you cannot change people. all you can do is see whether or not they fit into your paradigm of a happy future.